Advice for dating an older man
Early on I used to have a fit every week about what he could do to make more time for me, but at a certain point, after some compromising, you end up just trying to be supportive and patient.
Besides, I wouldn’t want the finger pointed at me for having a part in keeping him from doing what he needs to do to get ahead.
He’s busy studying for a major exam that will allow him to work for whomever he wants and to make the kind of moves and money I probably won’t ever see (hey, columnists weren’t meant to be millionaires).
With all that drive comes a lot of time we don’t get to share together.
Are you always up for something fun and spontaneous?
You’re not going to a get a true picture about someone’s lifestyle in a month; give yourself a few months of dating to make sure that you’ve seen him or her in as many real-life situations as possible.Don’t start changing things about yourself to mold into wifey-material, just because he knows he wants to settle down soon.It’s okay to take interest in things he has a passion for, but don’t start doing things you know you can’t stand to make a good impression. Shutterstock All that *I know you can read my mind so you should know I’m hella pissed* way of doing things could get you ignored by an older man real quick. So if you’re upset about something substantial, don’t be afraid to calm yourself down, open your mouth and let it be known that you’ve been hurt by his actions.Shutterstock Some older fellas are flexible in trying new things (aka, the stuff you like), but what happens when you’re dealing with one who says, “I stopped hanging out at places like that in my 20s”?
Sometimes you just have to accept that you might be messing with a party pooper, and from there you will have to determine if his lack of spontaneity is enough to make you leave because you feel you’re being held back.I know a woman who dates an older man, and he jumps from profession to profession while trying to make a career in music take off.