Asserting myself while dating
Give the relationship time to develop until you’re both feeling secure and confident about its direction. It’s easy to make a new relationship the center of your world.
It's important to support each other's interests -- even and maybe especially when they aren't shared. While committing to another being is a great thing, giving up your needs and feelings up for that person isn't.Make sure you're aware of what you won't give up for anyone. Spending time "apart" while constantly chatting and texting with your partner isn't really taking time for yourself.To retain your sense of who you are, you need to set aside time to do your thing -- work, exercise, read, journal, pursue personal projects, whatever -- without checking in with your partner every five minutes.Don't compromise or undermine your own desires just because a) you want to give the other person everything they want or b) you're scared that you'll lose him or her if you need something different.
A functional relationship makes room for what both of you need, and your partner can't know what you need if you don't voice it.Here's a list of 16 ways to date someone you're really, really into without losing yourself.